A few months ago those of sound mind cringed when Hollywood starlet Jennifer Lawrence normalized the viewing of pornography in relationships. Defending her decision to send naked pictures of herself to her then-boyfriend (pictures that were later hacked and distributed on the internet), Lawrence reasoned,
“Either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you.”
On the one hand that statement sent a terribly objectifying message to women about their value. Suggesting to young adult women that they cannot and should not expect their boyfriends to keep themselves pure in heart and mind is not a positive step for femininity.
Further, though she doesn’t explicitly say it, there is a sick and twisted implication here that girlfriends have a duty to provide such pictures of themselves. Hers was not an empowering, “If your boyfriend can’t dedicate his heart and mind to you alone, girls, dump him and move on because he’s not worth your time” message. It was a, “Your boyfriend has to look at naked women and you need to not only be okay with that, you need to provide it for him if you are a good girlfriend.” No. Just no.
The truth is that America has a tragic pornography problem that is having devastating effects not just on personal morality but on relationships, marriages, and families. And if Lawrence or anyone needs proof of that, take the testimony of an increasing number of brave Hollywood professionals who are speaking out about the reality of porn in America:
During his “Total Blackout” comedy tour earlier this week, Rock opened up about his addiction and how it caused the end of his 16-year marriage to Malaak Compton.
Rock admitted pornography made it difficult for him to make eye contact, and he often missed social cues, the Inquisitr reported. He shared there were days when he did not talk to his wife.
“My father actually wanted to talk to my mother when he came home,” Rock said when comparing his marriage to his parents’ marriage. Rock has been able to overcome his addiction through therapy.
And while Rock may be the highest profile celebrity speaking out, he isn’t alone. Terry Crews, the man most famous for his ridiculous Old Spice television commercials, offered a similar testimony to Rock’s.
In 2016, Crews posted a video to Facebook admitting his addiction and how it cost him his marriage. “It changes the way you think about people,” he said. “People become objects.”
“It affected everything,” Crews continued. “I didn’t tell my wife … didn’t tell my friends. Nobody knew, but the internet allowed that little secret to just stay and grow. It was something that my wife was literally like ‘I don’t know you anymore. I’m out of here.'”
“Pornography really, really messed up my life in a lot of ways,” he added.
The truth is that pornography messes up every person’s life that it comes into contact with – sometimes in small ways, and sometimes in large, tragic ways. It’s dehumanizing, it’s objectifying, and it’s prevalence is one of the greatest threats to our civilization that exists.